Saturday, September 15, 2012

Edit, Edit, Edit.......

I have done it! I have finally started editing my book! I put my excuses away and told my husband that I was indeed working on my book and not just sitting at my kitchen table listening to itunes through the laptop. (who does that anyway?)Needless to say he was shocked. I haven't worked on it in ages. I am fairly proud of myself, and I plan on doing again today.



Now that I have tooted my own horn for actually doing something let me just say after all this time I am reading it with new eyes. The one thing that is staggering is how I just simply "gave up" and it shows in the text. I have found myself wincing at some of my narration and I am very much dissapointed with myself. To be honest in it's current state I wouldn't let anyone read it. The last "edit" I did was a hack job. I ripped the soul out of my work! I am ashamed that my grammer perfecting OCD screwed my work. Yes, the sentences are beatutiful in their correctness, but really nobody speaks "correctly" and when reading pages upon pages of perfectly worded grammer it becomes flat and dry. Akin to reading an applicance user manual. Yuck. I have a LOT of work ahead of me, but I look foreward to it, and I will savor the chance to correct my mistakes to make my book "alive".




The moral for this post is Yeah you might of screwed your entire book up, but YOU are the writer. You are the dreamer of this dream and it is yours to do as you wish with it. If you want rainbow colored cookies to fall from the sky while pony ninja's are fighting perfect pretty-pretty princessess to over throw the pony's slave masters go for it! This is a lesson I had to re-learn.

Thursday, September 13, 2012

ADHD/ADD


Since another year of school has started, for us back in August, I have been reminded that a lot of teachers are not aquainted with ADD/ADHD. Sure they have heard of it on T.V. and radio, but most of them are CLUELESS as to how to help a student that has ADD/ADHD. (ADD is where you or a child simply cannot focus, cannot concentrate. ADHD is ADD plus hyper activity thrown in.)

Let me give you the short version of "Our Story". My middle child has ADHD and it's not a slight case where he may day dream through math class. He is in constant motion, always moving, always thinking and most of the time he's not concentrating on what he needs to. Which means he's not focusing and not RETAINING any information. He just can't be still. Even when he sleeps he rolls around and talks.When he was smaller, in pre-k, we had issues with him remembering simple saftey rules. I almost had a heart attack one day at the gas station when he ran OUT INTO traffic because he was excited because he got a slush puppy. Needless to say our motto is "saftey first" and before we go ANYWHERE I remind him of the rules. He just gets so wound up he forgets them. It sounds lame, but it is the truth. We also had issues with behaviour. I mean bad, naughty behaviour that made me shake my head and think, "What in the world was he thinking?". The issue is he WASN'T thinking. He is very impulsive, he thinks it and does it. He doesn't think about the consquences, he just doesn't get that far along into the thought process before he is all excited about whatever. That was a major hurtle for us, but with lots of patients and heaps of getnle reminders and a behaviour system we over came it.




Class work can be a major ordeal for him as well as homework. I have literally spent hours upon hours helping him do a simple sheet of math problems. This equals to him and me being frustrated. Our school system does not share information with the teacher, unless they deem it important enough for her/him to know. So it is left up to the PARENT to fill in the blanks before the rumor mill does. I had issues with this last year. One Nosey Momma of a fellow classmate of my son did that before I realised the school kept information private. I of course had a very long talk with my son's teacher and we kept up an open line of communication all year so we could be a team to help him succeed. It worked great!

She was on-board and even understood what ADHD was after our chat and we had a game plan to amp up his strengths and to help strengthen is weaknesses. He was an honor roll student after that! It made him confident and it made me so happy to see him focused and driven!


This year started out rough. New school equals new everything. Then I learned after the 3rd week of school, after 3 weeks of VERY poor, failing grades what was going on. My darling boy was in a class of 24 students. Disctraction city and the teacher again was clueless. After I met with his teacher and got a classroom game plan and a home game plan things have improved so much. (a different grade means an entirely different set of homework expectations).Instead of getting 30's on tests he's now getting 100's. What's the difference you ask?

Step 1: Talk to your doctor
I talked to our family doctor and got some ADHD medication for my sweetie. Keep in mind our family docotor has been the same for one almost 10 years now, so he is fairly aquainted with my boys. The medication is a stimulant that helps him focus. It does not change is personaility, or slow down his hyperness. It actually can make is hyper behaviour worse if you are not prepared. So we got prepared. (Also chocolate and caffeine are a major no-no while on the med)

Step 2: Try the Medication
Before he took the med on a school day I gave it to him at home to see the effects. He was a live wire. He talked for 12 hours straight! He was bouncing all over the house. The next day he took it at home I made sure we had activies to help keep him focused. That did wonders for him! That's the key to the medicine. He's good as long as he has something to keep him focused.


Step 3: Get a game plan for school and home
This is where my son's teacher comes into play. From my experience as his mother I have learned that a simple daily routine helps keep him on track. From the time he gets up till he goes to bed we have a routine. Everything has a place, from his toys, books, backpack, shoes and everything else. This makes keeping him organized simple which is an issue for people with ADD/ADHD. A simple reminder is all it takes to get him back on track, and it is soothing to him to know what is next.

As for school organization a binder with labeled dividers is all it took to help him sort out his "stuff". The binder I bought him has 2 mesh zip pockets on the outside to hold his pencils and other things that gets lost inside of a desk or a locker. The dividers are labeled for his subjects, spelling, english, math, and of course a section for me. The teacher and school always sends home heaps of stuff for parents every week. Now I'm not reading a crumpled up class newsletters that got smushed in the bottom of his backpack.


His teacher also began a routine at school and posted it for all of the students to see. What's at 8:10 after anouncements? Morning Work. They all know what to expect, and she has it posted on a white board so if they have a special day she can change it! Brilliant! The next step is rewards. If he is good and has good grades or gets caught being good he gets a ticket. After he has collected "x" amount of tickets he gets a trip to the treasure chest!

As for the distractions she has split the class up into groups for learning activities. A group of 4 students may be reading on the rug, another 4 are finishing up class work, another 4 are having computer time, another 4 are in the science center. Brilliant teaching at it's best. And the best thing is that all of the students are benfiting from these smaller groups of learning centers.

The biggest factor for my son is movement. He must move. He will be bouncing in his seat or walking laps around the room. So to aide him in keeping in his seat we use a excerise ball for him to sit on! It gives him a range of motion that he needs and keeps him at his desk to do his work.


All of these small steps keeps him on track and makes life easy for everyone. Nobody is running around like a crazy person in the morning, and in the afternoon we all know what to do when we walk into the front door. If there is a change, like say a fair, I make sure to tell him what we are doing, the when, the where and what I expect of him and it goes smoothly! No more am I looking like the overwhelmed momma with 3 boys and frazzled hair with mis-matching socks. In a small way his ADHD has helped get our family on track. Otherwise I would be a mess, my hair in a sloppy bun wearing flip flops in 10 degree weather because I didn't have time to put on "real" shoes.

The key to having a ADHD or ADD child being sucessful in life is to have a plan and get everyone on board.Plus being calm for those "bad days". Yes, you will not be able to do this for his whole life, but he will pick up on these tools now if you show him how to use them. Then when he is an adult he will know what he needs to be successful. You know what they say, "Give a fish to a hungry man he will eat for that day, teach him how to fish and he will eat for a lifetime".

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Remember

Today is the 11th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. Of course leading up to this day there has been heaps of programs on the T.V.and articles in the papers to remind us all of that tragic day.

I remember where I was at when it happened. I had a 3 week old baby boy (my first born) and I was nursing him while watching our small 11 inch T.V. in our bedroom when the "breaking news" took over. It took a moment for what I was seeing to sink in. They were showing the demise of thousands of people on live T.V. It was like watching a war zone; I could not absorb all of the content. I was stunned, shocked and overwhelmed.


I live in Tennessee which of course is no where near New York or any of the other sites, but I remember my heart being lodged in my throat for all of those people that were involved. I knew that I wanted to help those in need, that while we didn't have much I would gladly give what I had to those that needed it. The local churches of course started to donation drives for clothing, non-perishable food, bottled water, first aide supplies, money and volenteers to go to "Ground Zero" to help. I wanted to go help, but I was still recovering from having a baby and so me and my husband opted to donate. We gave clothes, blankets, towels, food, and money. Understand at that time he was working at Wal-mart not making very much money. Things were tight for us, but still we gave.


The non-stop media coverage horrified me. All the dust, smoke, and debris from the twin towers seemed like it was from another planet. Then the news of the brave ones on the third plane came out and my heart broke again for those families. Their actions were simply stunning. Such breathtaking bravery shown by people I might of sat next to at the coffee shop, or stood in line behind at the store.

I remember the terror of that day and for the months that followed. The rumors that spread like wildfire and of course the non-stop media coverage. I remember them telling people to not call looking for loved ones because the phone systems were simply bogged down and were failing. The unknown was the terror of that day and the days that followed. Who knew if that was the only set of attacks? Who could tell us why they did this? Still most of the answers we sought of the attack were not given, but at least the families were able to get a small amount of closure.


Yes, all of this was tragic, but it also showed to us,as a country, what we had forgotten over the years. That we are strong, that we are truly one country united. I did not know any of those that suffered a loss on that day personally, yet I gave. I have never been to New York or any of the other sites, and still I gave. Why? Because they were in need. That is such a simple answer. I have NEVER turned anyone away that I could help. Nobody ever leaves my home hungry or thirsty. If you are in need simply ask and you shall be blessed. Why should distance affect their cause? We are all human and know how it feels to be hurt or sad or in need.

I know how easily things are forgotten in this fast paced media driven age. One moment we are watching Kitten videos and the next posting about our lastest and greatest whatever on Facebook. To honor those that were affected by the 9/11 attack we need to simply remember! My children were either too young to remember it or wasn't even born so it is up to us the parents to tell them! The schools will only do so much! Do you want your children to learn of this from a bland text book or do you want to tell them your 9/11 story so that they can know that part of their family history.


It was an ugly day, but it was a day we lived through and we should remember our fallen unsung heros who risked so much. Simply Remember.




Monday, September 10, 2012

Excuses

I know that one of most difficult things as a writer is actually making time to write. That's right, actually sitting down and doing it. I know that life still carries on. I am the worst at making excuses for NOT writing. "the kids have...." "I have to go get groceries today..." "The kitchen floor needs to be scrubbed..." I am an endless font of excuses.


So my excuses line up like good little soilders ready for war while my book lays moldering away thinking it's forgotten while I am digging through box after box looking for "that" candle holder Aunt Margret gave us when we got married 12 years ago that I haven't seen since we got married. "It would match the new couch perfectly!!" (insert my husband's eye roll here)

To all of us that have heaps of excuses quit cleaning your house and doing pointless errands and work on that book! Crack out those index cards and binders full of notes and put them to work! Clearly we are needed! Have you seen the new books being offered here lately?? Most are sad things that should be avoided if you want to keep all of your brain cells. Which is worse for a person; An awful book or a bong hit? I'm going with a badly written book.

Friday, September 7, 2012

An Adventure for Spiderwick


I sent my poor mother to Books-a-Million near her doctor's office today with an errand. My oldest son is in a book club at school and they are starting to read The Field Guide book 1 in the Spiderwick chronicles. This is one of the few youth series I have not purchased. If it was Harry Potter or the Lemony Snicket series we would be all set. So I sent her to the book store with my membership card and the book inforamation to purchase one for my sweetie.

She came back with a box set of Lomony Snicket!Books 1-3 in the series all in a neat little set for the cheap price of 45 bucks! Ouch!


Of course she was pissed because she had to return to the shop and it's a good 40 minute drive from where we live at. (Trust me I called everyone in town to see if they had it in stock or in a library. Everyone was out or had lent it out!) Also the only copy I could get on my Kindle is the audio book, which he can't take into a book club meeting! UGH!

So here's my rant. If your going to work in a book shop pay attention to your customers! Know the differences between all the popular book series. Lemony and Spiderwick really don't have anything in common other than they both have kids in the stories. I'm not even sure how you could mistake one for the other. How frustrating! Especially now with gas being so high a 40 minute one way trip into Nashville and then a 40 minute trip back really sucks up the money. I seriously doubt they will give her a $20 spot to cover her gas back up there. Before she had a reason to be in Nashville, she had a doctor's appointment.


Thankfully I was able to call the book shop before she left and spoke to someone there. I gave them the info of the situation and got them to hold a copy of the first book at the desk for her so that way there will not be any confusion. My poor mom doesn't know Lemony Snicket from Anne of Green Gables. Hopefully, she will return with the right book and he can get his extra credit.

Isn't it amazing how a simple trip to a book shop can turn into madness? Then again, with my family I am not surprised in the least. It seems like this kind of thing happens a lot. Were blessed with Confusion!